Conventional wisdom has always advocated giving difficult feedback in the form of a 'compliment sandwich.' Here's why you shouldn't do that.
Tag: professional development
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Feedback: Part 3 – Relationships
Our relationships with those who are giving us feedback are, obviously, an important factor in how we receive the feedback they give us. Thus, Stone and Heen's second "trigger" in their book, Thanks for the Feedback, is the "truth trigger." Here, I'll cover the two big pitfalls of feedback conversations caused by relationship triggers: switchtracking and the blame game. Switchtracking … Continue reading Feedback: Part 3 – Relationships
Feedback: Part 2 – The Truth
See Feedback: Part I for a breakdown of Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. They outline three types of feedback (evaluation, coaching, and appreciation) and three "triggers" that make feedback hard to take (truth triggers, relationship triggers, and identity triggers). I'm going to cover Truth Triggers here; what they are, how to avoid it, … Continue reading Feedback: Part 2 – The Truth
It’s that time: Annual Reviews
My annual review is coming up in January, and if it is anything like my six month review, I know I'll be asked to think about three things that I am good at and three areas for improvement. To put it bluntly, this self-evaluation is not my favorite thing to do. I always sit in … Continue reading It’s that time: Annual Reviews
“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”
Yeah, I hate that question, too. According to this article that I read in the Harvard Business Review on career development, it's something you should try to figure out the answer to before you prep for your next interview. Dorie Clark, the author, proposes four methods to start making a name for yourself in your organization … Continue reading “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”
Feedback: Part I
Feedback does not begin and end in a one-on-one with your supervisor. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news! Feedback isn't even confined to conversations. Sometimes it is the projects you are, or are not, asked to tackle, the ideation sessions you are asked to join, or the lunch out with co-workers you aren't … Continue reading Feedback: Part I
Friday Reads: Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversations blew my mind in graduate school. It has stuck with me ever since because of the simple way in which it lays out the core hurdles of difficult conversations of all kinds. It is an important read for anyone who has to have difficult conversations at work, and has played a major role in … Continue reading Friday Reads: Difficult Conversations
Make a List, Check It Twice
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